Pursuing Passion nugs of gold
Monday, February 15, 2010
Here are a few nugs that may or may not have been discussed this past sunday at Pursuing Passion. Many of these thoughts come directly from a great book called “Soul Virgins” by Doug Rosenau, as well as “Equipped to Love” by Norm Wakefield. I’d recommend both of them, for college students especially.
- You must first learn how to be a satisfied single adult in order to become a mature and satisfied married adult
- 2 whole people are needed to make a whole, healthy marriage
- marriage is more like 1×1 = one flesh synergy
- when two halfway healthy people come together, its not as easy is ½ + ½ = 1
- its more like ½ x ½ = ¼
- there’s a negative synergy
- its more like ½ x ½ = ¼
- Radical thought – what would happen if you took the desperate energy you spend looking for a mate and instead redirected it into a desperate seeking after God?
- We run after God, and eventually you look next to you and there is another person going in the same direction, not crossing each others path as much as it is joining each other’s side
- HOW FAR IS TOO FAR? Because you aren’t married, assume your future spouse is going out on a date with someone else tonight. Where would you want that man or woman to set the erotic behavior limits with your future spouse tonight?
In OT, the word for virgin comes from root words that mean “to separate” or “to hide” – to separate or hide something was to set it apart as special, unique, valuable – intentionally saved for purpose
Sexual activity should never be a substitute for emotional or spiritual intimacy
When we look to another other than God to supply our needs, then we give them the power to make us miserable, b/c they aren’t God and don’t possess the power to satisfy us
Idolatry: looking to any person, object, or idea to supply what only God can supply
Love can only take place where a relationship is free from idolatry and a person recognizes God as the source of everything
